“When your values are clear to you,
Making decisions becomes easier.”
– Roy E. Disney
Unlike Strengths, your Values will change over your lifetime. That’s why doing the following exercise can be a great step in your move to an ideal retirement life. You may have sought Recognition and Wealth during your working years. Now, having achieved them, other things may move to the top of your list.
In addition, once you have a handle on your Values, it will help you decide how you are going to define “Success” in your current life. For example, if you value Health, you might have certain eating or exercise goals you set for yourself. If Aesthetics is now in your top 5, you might explore some creative hobbies you never had time for before.
This wonderful exercise is taken from the book “Putting Money in Its Place”, by Ken Rouse. I used it with all my financial planning clients, and Ken has graciously given me permission to continue to use it with you.
Below is a list of 15 key Values people want to experience during their lives. You will harbor some of these values more than others, but you can’t hold them all at once, as some contradict others.
Assume your situation is such that you HAVE to give up 10 of these Values. Which ones? Drop them out by putting an X in the left column [NCN note: I find it useful to assume this doesn’t mean if you drop Wealth, for example, that you are comfortable with losing all your financial assets. Rather, it means, if you are already financially independent, that the acquisition of additional wealth no longer drives your day-to-day life and decisions – you already have Enough.]
Next, rank the remaining five values from highest (1) to lowest (5). Place your rank order numbers in the left column.
____ Achievement To accomplish something important in life; be involved in significant activities; succeed at what I am doing
____ Aesthetics To be able to appreciate and enjoy beauty for beauty’s sake; to be artistically creative
____ Authority/Power To be a key decision maker directing priorities, the activities of other people and/or allocation and use of resources
____ Adventure To experience variety and excitement; be able to respond to challenging opportunities
____ Autonomy To be independent, have freedom, be able to live where I want to live and do what I want to do
____ Health To be physically, mentally and emotionally well; to feel energetic and maintain a sense of well-being
____ Integrity To be honest and straightforward, just and fair
____ Intimacy/Friendship/Love To have close personal relationships, experience affection, share life with family and friends
____ Pleasure To experience enjoyment and personal satisfaction from the activities in which I participate
____ Recognition To be seen as successful, receive acknowledgment for achievements
____ Security To feel stable and comfortable with few changes or anxieties in my life
____ Service To contribute to the quality of life for other people and to be involved in improving society or the world
____ Spiritual Growth To have communication or harmony with the infinite source of life
____ Wealth To acquire an abundance of money and/or material possessions; to be financially independent
____ Wisdom To have insight, be able to pursue new knowledge, have clear judgment and be able to use common sense in life situations
This is a starting point for getting in touch with your current values. You can substitute other words or definitions for the ones above. Here’s a list of 50: http://jamesclear.com/core-values. If you Google life values you’ll find lists of 150 and even 200 values! But, please limit yourself to five. Any more and it starts to lose meaning.